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resolutions to "give it all up". Why should he give up this new aspect of himself just because society in the form of parents, wife, or therapist would feel better if he did. So he compromises-gives them what they want and goes "underground". This is an extremely common experience among FPs. The concept of combining the masculine and feminine sides of human experience and thereby achieving a state of peace, happiness and fulfillment was stated clearly 2000 years ago by Jesus, one of whose reported sayings was, "When you make the two one and when you make the male and the female into a single one...then shall you enter the Kingdom". Of course Jesus didn't distinguish between sex and generation since what he meant was, "when you make masculine and feminine into a single one".

I have said that therapists are generally unacquainted with the nature of this behaviour. Perhaps my little story will illustrate one reason for this-that it is a phenomenon beyond the range of most psychological training since it is really not in essence a psychological problem, either in causation or in practice. Where the therapist can do most good would be in helping parents and wives to a better understanding and the individual to a guilt free acceptance of himself. Much more harm comes to the person and those with whom he is associated such as parents, siblings, wives, employers etc. from the misapprehensions about cross dressing, such homosexuality, than from the behaviour itself. Too often therapists who themselves see cross dressing as a sure sign of homosexuality contribute to the problem. My own marriage was destroyed by a psychiatrist my wife consulted in precisely this way.

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Now I have just mentioned a wife. If you have not guessed it before, I am a male, but I am also a woman- -a male woman if you will, but you probably won't. If you won't it is because you have not been able to really accept the idea that sex and gender are two different things. I have been married twice and fathered a son. I am not homosexual. I have lived completely in the gender of a woman for the past 10 years and traveled extensively and done everything any other woman might do except have relations with a male sexually. That would be a sexual and therefore a female act and I am not female.

This brings up the subject of transexuality. I am not a TS either. People seeking sex change surgery come from both the homosexual and the heterosexual world. The former basicly seek the change so

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